• 04/19/2024

50 Shoe Game Wedding Questions for Joy and Laughter

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The shoe game is a common event at wedding receptions and showers. The best part about it is it is virtually free to set up and universally well-liked by attendees. Learn about how to play this classic game, the best shoe game wedding questions available and, most importantly, what not to ask.

What Is the Shoe Game at Weddings?

The shoe game is when you place the married couple back-to-back, sitting in chairs. The guests sit around them. Each individual is equipped with one shoe from each person, and an MC has a list of questions to ask them. This game involves no audience participation — unless you count laughter, which there will be plenty.

The MC will ask the newly married a question, and then, they hold up the shoe according to who they think the question applies to most. For example, the MC may ask “Who is the better cook?” Then, the married couple should hold up the shoe that corresponds to their answer. The best part is the audience knows how they both answer, but the married couple does not. 

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What Makes Good Shoe Game Wedding Questions

Now, what makes a good question? You don’t want to ask a bunch of duds that bore the guests or don’t spark any curiosity. So, what’s the recipe?

You also want the stars of the show to not feel attacked or caught off-guard by what’s being asked. For example, if someone is self-conscious about their driving, it wouldn’t make sense to ask who is the better driver. If someone has a fear of heights, it would also not make sense to ask who is more fearless on roller coasters. Designing a roster is as fun as it is delicate — you want to be sensitive and attentive to the newly married. So, having someone who knows both of them well or asking family and friends to look over the list beforehand is a great idea.

You also want the questions to feel personal. There are classic questions that probably get asked during every shoe game, like “Who made the first move?” But, you want to balance these questions — which are more for the audience’s benefit — with ones that excite those who just got married. Are they both interested in going to concerts or playing a particular sport? Asking who has a better throwing arm or sings the loudest would be customized to their interests.

Finally, you want to avoid questions that relate to negative emotions or the past. Here are some red flag topics you’ll want to avoid:

  • Exes
  • In-laws
  • Sex life, if they are private about these matters
  • Politics
  • Finances
  • Legal topics
  • Gendered stereotypes, such as “Who wears the pants in the relationship?”
  • Substances, covering topics like drunkenness 
  • Medical concerns
  • Religion

The golden rule applies here — if it’s too sensitive to talk about the dinner table, you might not want to take a chance of ruining the wedding’s vibe by being too nosy.

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Shoe Game Wedding Questions and Ideas

Now that you’re briefed on the how-to and the guidelines, let’s get into some top question suggestions you can apply to any wedding. These will make the married smile and the audience laugh joyfully.

Testing Their Memory

  1. Who suggested the first date?
  2. Who said “I love you” first?
  3. Who gives the best gifts?
  4. Who’s more likely to forget important dates?
  5. Who spent more time on wedding planning?
  6. Who is more likely to lose something?
  7. Who had the idea to propose first?
  8. Who brought up the idea of kids first?
  9. Who is always right?
  10. Who spends the most money?

Personality Traits

  1. Who is more likely to make plans on the fly?
  2. Who spends more time looking at their phone?
  3. Who has better taste in movies?
  4. Who is more likely to cry at a sad movie or book?
  5. Who is the life of the party?
  6. Who takes the longest to get ready?
  7. Who is nerdier?
  8. Who is the pickier eater?
  9. Who works the hardest at their job?
  10. Who is more likely to tip more?
  11. Who has the biggest sweet tooth?
  12. Who has more photos on their phone?
  13. Who wakes up grumpier?
  14. Who is more likely to go out of their comfort zone to try something new?


  1. Who gives better massages?
  2. Who is more equipped to fix a house issue?
  3. Who would make it the longest surviving on a desert island?
  4. Who gives better hugs?
  5. Who makes better coffee?
  6. Who would be a better karaoke performer?
  7. Who is better at striking up conversations with strangers?
  8. Who organizes the home better?
  9. Who is better at styling an outfit?
  10. Who is the better storyteller?
  11. Who is better at Googling answers to questions?
  12. Who is better at understanding directions?

Funny Questions

  1. Who is flirtier?
  2. Who is more likely to keep a secret?
  3. Who do the pets love more?
  4. Who is better at keeping their cool in a heated situation?
  5. Who spends more time in the bathroom?
  6. Who is more likely to hog all the blankets?
  7. Who is more likely to fall asleep in odd places?
  8. Who has more significant road rage?
  9. Who is more likely to get sunburned?
  10. Who is more over-the-top dramatic?
  11. Who looks at themselves in the mirror more often?
  12. Who is needier when they are sick?
  13. Who is more likely to trip up the stairs?
  14. Who is more likely to eat dessert for breakfast?
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The Shoe Game Is an Agreeable Wedding Staple

These are only several ideas to get you thinking. When drafting questions, always think of who got married first. If they’re both into building models, ask who assembles them faster. If they are known for telling dad jokes often, ask who tells them better. 

The point of the shoe game is to learn more about the couple while laughing alongside them. If you want to go a step further, you can even give signs to each audience member to hold up as they try to make their own guess. There are tons of ways to customize this wedding classic. What are some of the best questions you’ve heard that made the event even better?

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